Godly Relationship Advice for Men and Women

All humans want to love and be loved and the following article is for both men and women. Although it’s heartbeat is for the women it is also for men alike. I found this article at one of my favorite sites myfaithfiles.com. You have to check it out. This site is funky fresh! It’s for us young people. A place for us to discuss issues in the church and issues that we face on a daily basis by addressing them through biblical principles. The columnists are young people of God keeping it real. Thank God for Bro. Louis Pollard (LP3) allowing God to use him in having a site like this for the young people. As for me and where I am in my life it is difficult at times because I have been separated from everything and almost everyone I knew, but God know’s what he is doing. It is all working together for my good. These young people motivate me to pursue and chase God. Although I don’t know them personally it is evident that God if real and that his hand is on their lives and using them to bless others. I will write how I feel about this article, probably in my next blog. Comment on it and let me know what you think about it, so we can talk. I love discussion lol. Enjoy!

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No Boys Allowed

By Christian Joy Wagner

It’s been stated “beggars can’t be choosy” but I say, since I’m not begging anyone to love me I always have a choice, especially when it comes to LOVE! “We have come to know and believe the love God has for us. God is love. If you live in love, you live by the help of God and God lives in you.” 1 John 4:16 (NLV). When we lose sight of love in it’s truth it becomes easy to lose yourself simply in the idea of it or worse, the person you’ve chosen to love. I can say this because I’ve done it. This occurs when you don’t truly believe and live in the love GOD has for you and you aren’t completely living by His help.
Once I became cognizant of this, I could vividly see the mistakes I was making in love and why it was not being reciprocated to me within the realm it was given. I also realized that I was waiting to be chosen rather than exercising my right as a woman to choose! This was a clear indication that I did not have a firm grasp of my self worth or even the sight of how others viewed me. I saw myself beneath my worth and in truth did not know who I was. So the journey began. I stopped blaming those I chose to love for what was happening to me and started taking responsibility for what should have been happening inside of me.

The only person responsible for your happiness, your emotions, your life and your choices is You! This revelation has been extremely life changing for me. Ladies, a man can aid in your happiness but he can never become the source of your happiness.  This truly comes from GOD and knowing who you are.  When you know who you are, you stop answering to what people say you are.  If you don’t know who you are, how can you really ‘help’ him?  It is essential to love you first, before you can genuinely love anyone else. You cannot give away what you do not already possess.  You teach and show someone how to love you by not only how you love them but mostly how you love yourself! Sometimes the love you’re waiting to give away is the very love you need to give yourself.  You’ve got to learn to unconditionally love YOU!  True love comes with acceptance.  You must learn to embrace you completely, flaws and all.  Yes, even that stubborn 10 pounds that won’t vacate the premises LOL.  Be careful how you speak about your body, it hears you and absorbs everything you say.  You must know that you are amazing, beautiful, intelligent and sexy…just as you are!  We can always improve but give yourself permission to be perfectly imperfect. When you feed yourself acceptance you’ll never starve for it from another.  Know that you are made in the image of GOD, you are the express image of love, and that alone declares you are worth it!
Once you know your worth, you’ll never settle for anything less than you deserve.  In relationships you choose people based upon how you see yourself.  When you know you are a queen, only kings need apply.  You are too fly to settle for a jester.  Simply put, NO BOYS ALLOWED!  You will never get more when you continue to settle for less.  You can settle down without settling so let’s talk about some of the differences between a boy and a Man. Ladies, little boys will play games while grown Men are ‘game changers’.  A boy is only concerned with fulfilling his temporary pleasures while a grown Man’s desire is to help fulfill your continued happiness.  A boy will push you away but a grown Man will pull you close.  A boy will run from your love but a grown Man will rest in it.  A boy would lead you on but a grown Man will lead you. Boys will tell you what they think you want to hear, while grown Men will show you what they know you need.  I could go on but I digress. So Ladies, please stop begging a boy to love you, if he can’t see how AMAZING you are, he doesn’t deserve you and he can #kickrocks! Christian Joy @iamchristianjoy